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- What should a 3-year-old eat for dinner?
- 15 easy dinners for a 3-year-old
- How do I build a dinner in two minutes?
- Can my 3-year-old eat what the rest of the family eats?
- How do I serve dinner safely at 3?
- What if my 3-year-old won’t eat dinner?
- What about drinks with dinner?
- When to talk to your pediatrician
- Common questions
The short version
- A 3-year-old's dinner is about a quarter of an adult's plate, per the AAP, for example 1 oz of meat, 4 tbsp of pasta or rice and 3 tbsp of cooked vegetables.
- Any family dinner works if you cut it small and cook it soft; offer nutritious choices and let your child decide how much to eat.
- Under age 4, chop hot dogs and grapes into tiny pieces and skip nuts and popcorn.
What should a 3-year-old eat for dinner?
A 3-year-old’s dinner is about a quarter of an adult’s plate, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics: a protein, a grain, a cooked vegetable and milk.1 In real food, that’s a couple of small meatballs, a few spoonfuls of noodles and a few pieces of soft vegetable.
Those are the AAP’s toddler serving sizes. Treat them as a starting point, not a target; your child may eat more or less on any given night.
| Food | One serving |
|---|---|
| Meat, fish or poultry | 1 oz (two 1-inch cubes, or 2 tbsp ground) |
| Cooked pasta, rice or cereal | 4 tbsp |
| Cooked vegetables | 1 tbsp per year of age (3 tbsp at 3) |
| Bread | ¼ to ½ slice |
| Cheese | ½ oz (a 1-inch cube) |
| Yogurt | ⅓ cup |
| Milk | ½ cup |
Because the vegetable rule is 1 tablespoon per year of age, a 3-year-old’s portion is a little bigger than a 2-year-old’s.1 For the younger version of this plate, see our 2-year-old dinner ideas.
15 easy dinners for a 3-year-old
Each is a protein, a grain and a vegetable you can make for the whole family. Serve small spoonfuls and add milk on the side.
| Dinner | How to serve it at 3 |
|---|---|
| Pasta with meat sauce and peas | Mince the meat finely; cook peas soft |
| Baked salmon, rice and green beans | Flake the fish and check for bones; cut beans small |
| Bean and cheese quesadilla with avocado | Cut into small strips; mash beans lightly |
| Shredded chicken with mashed sweet potato | Shred finely; serve soft broccoli in small pieces |
| Mini meatballs with noodles and zucchini | Cut meatballs into small pieces |
| Tofu and vegetable stir-fry over rice | Cube tofu small; cook vegetables until soft |
| Egg fried rice with peas | Scramble the egg into small bits |
| Lentil soup with soft bread | Let it cool before serving |
| Pizza toast with cheese and chopped vegetables | Cook vegetables soft and chop small |
| Chicken and vegetable soup with small pasta | Shred the chicken; cook vegetables soft |
| Mild turkey chili over rice | Mash beans lightly; skip chunky toppings |
| Fish cakes with soft carrots | Bake until set; cook carrots until soft and cut small |
| Baked potato with beans and cheese | Split open to cool; serve soft broccoli alongside |
| Veggie omelet strips with toast and fruit | Chop vegetables small; cut fruit into small pieces |
| Burrito bowl: rice, black beans, shredded chicken | Shred the chicken; cook peppers very soft |
Our guide to the best meals for 3-year-olds adds lunches to the mix.
How do I build a dinner in two minutes?
When the question is just “what’s for dinner”, skip the recipe and fill four slots, using the serving sizes above.1
The four-slot plate
- Protein. Meat, fish, poultry, tofu, egg, beans or lentils, shredded, minced or mashed.
- Grain. Pasta, rice, bread, a tortilla or a potato.
- Vegetable. Cooked soft and cut small. Add one familiar one and, if you like, one new one.
- Milk or yogurt. About ½ cup of milk or ⅓ cup of yogurt.1
Leftovers count. Last night’s shredded chicken becomes tonight’s quesadilla filling, and one pot of lentil soup covers two dinners. Cooking one family meal and adjusting the texture for your 3-year-old is usually less work than cooking two. Swap one slot at a time through the week and the same few staples can feel like a different dinner each night, with no extra planning on your part.
Can my 3-year-old eat what the rest of the family eats?
Usually yes. The AAP suggests turning off the TV, especially at mealtimes.2 Take your child’s portion out before you add heavy spice or chunky toppings, then cut it small and cook it soft.
The AAP’s advice is to encourage your child to taste new foods but never force it.2
If dinner is a battle most nights, look at the rest of the day too. A late snack or a big cup of milk before dinner can take the edge off appetite, and one small plate left unfinished doesn’t tell you much about how your child eats across a week.
How do I serve dinner safely at 3?
The AAP says to keep high-risk foods from children until age 4 or older, depending on their development and maturity.3 Round, firm foods such as hot dogs and grapes are only safe if completely chopped into tiny pieces.3 Skip nuts and popcorn.
- Cut small. Cut food into pieces no larger than one-half inch, and teach your child to chew well.3
- Cook it soft. Cooked-soft carrots and broccoli are easier than raw.
- Sit down. Insist that children eat at the table or sit down when they eat.3
What if my 3-year-old won’t eat dinner?
The AAP’s advice is to offer nutritious choices at every meal and let your child decide how much to eat.2 Don’t expect a full portion of an unfamiliar food; offer a very small amount of a new food next to ones they already like, and encourage but don’t force tasting.2 A taste can take 15 to 20 exposures to develop, so a refused vegetable isn’t a failure.2
In practice, put the family dinner on the table with one food you know they’ll eat, like rice or bread. Our guides to a toddler who won’t eat dinner and meal ideas for picky toddlers have more ideas.
What about drinks with dinner?
The AAP suggests 16 to 24 oz (2 to 3 cups) of milk a day for ages 2 to 5, as nonfat or low-fat (1%) milk.4 If milk fills your child up before the food arrives, serve it after the meal. See how much milk a toddler should drink.
When to talk to your pediatrician
Call your child's doctor if
- Your child is losing weight or has stopped growing along their usual curve
- They eat only a handful of foods and refuse whole food groups for weeks
- They cough, gag or choke often when eating, or have trouble swallowing
- They have swelling, hives or vomiting soon after eating a food
- You're planning a vegetarian, vegan or dairy-free diet and want to check for gaps
If you’re thinking of a vitamin or other supplement, ask your pediatrician first; they can tell you whether your child needs one and how much.
Common questions
What should a 3-year-old eat for dinner?
A protein food, a grain, a cooked vegetable and milk or another dairy food, in portions about a quarter of an adult's, according to the AAP. The same meal the family eats works if you cut it small and cook it soft.
How much dinner should a 3-year-old eat?
The AAP's toddler servings are 1 oz of meat, 4 tbsp of cooked pasta or rice, 1 tbsp of cooked vegetables per year of age (3 tbsp at 3) and ½ cup of milk. Treat these as a starting point and let your child decide how much to eat.
What if my 3-year-old refuses dinner?
Offer nutritious choices at every meal and let your child decide how much to eat, as the AAP advises. Don't expect a full portion of an unfamiliar food; tastes can take 15 to 20 exposures to develop.
Are grapes and hot dogs safe for a 3-year-old?
Only if completely chopped into tiny pieces, per the AAP. It says to keep high-risk foods such as nuts, popcorn and whole grapes away until age 4 or older, depending on the child.
How much milk should a 3-year-old drink?
The AAP suggests 16 to 24 oz (2 to 3 cups) a day for ages 2 to 5, as nonfat or low-fat milk. If milk fills them up before dinner, offer it after the meal.
Sources
- American Academy of Pediatrics, HealthyChildren.org. Serving Sizes for Toddlers.
- American Academy of Pediatrics, HealthyChildren.org. Feeding & Nutrition Tips: Your 3-Year-Old.
- American Academy of Pediatrics, HealthyChildren.org. Choking Prevention for Babies & Children: What Every Parent Needs to Know.
- American Academy of Pediatrics, HealthyChildren.org. Recommended Drinks for Children Age 5 & Younger.
This article is for general information and isn't a substitute for advice from your child's doctor. Our editorial standards.
